This is not who I am!
Eight years earlier, my body had already sent me a warning – a complete physical breakdown that nearly killed me. How did I go from being a Personal Trainer, the healthiest I had ever been, to almost dying on an operating table? That should have been my wake-up call. But it took me another eight years to finally see the writing on the wall and take action.
Acknowledging your misery is one thing – doing something about it is another.
At the time, stress was almost fashionable – if you weren’t stressed, you weren’t working hard enough. But when you’re already an anxious person, living under constant stress doesn’t just wear you down – it destroys your confidence, wrecks your health, and makes you question everything.
When I finally took action, it meant leaving my marriage of 27 years, my home, my country, and the businesses I had built from my kitchen 25 years earlier. I had no idea what was next – all I knew was that it had to be different. I needed space to discover who I really was and what I was truly capable of.
What I didn’t know then – but would learn through years of working on myself and research – was just how powerful our Beliefs are. They influence our thoughts, choices and behavior.
For the past 18 years, I’ve been learning, researching, and uncovering the real drivers behind anxiety, self-doubt, and destructive thoughts. And now, I help strong, successful women who feel unworthy, invisible, and unheard – despite everything they’ve achieved – break free from who they were conditioned to be and embrace who they truly are.
I had already qualified with a Diploma in Counselling, but I wanted more. I wanted a way to go deeper, to help clients break free from destructive emotions and beliefs – not just talk about them.
When I returned to England, Hypnotherapy seemed to be gaining attention, so I signed up for a course, believing it would complement my counselling background. But during my training, I was introduced to something else – something that immediately caught my attention: EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique.
I’ve always been curious, always questioned things. But growing up, I learned that adults don’t like being questioned – and as I got older I realised that questioning, challenging what is accepted as normal makes the average person uncomfortable. I wasn’t satisfied with the answers to my questions. Why had my body shut down so severely when, from the outside, I was the healthiest I had ever been? Could my stress, chronic anxiety, and unhappiness have played a part in making me ill?
I now know the answer is yes – 100% yes.
But in 2004, the medical world still resisted the idea that long-term stress, chronic anxiety, and relentless negative thoughts were the root cause of so many physical and mental health conditions – despite mounting evidence.
When I discovered the Emotional Freedom Technique, I was intrigued. Unlike Hypnosis, which requires belief and acceptance of the process, EFT works – whether you believe in it or not. It releases the emotional charge that keeps trauma and negative beliefs locked in the mind and body.
That was it. This was what I had been searching for.
I went on to qualify as an EFT Practitioner, because I knew that this was the missing link – the tool that could finally uncover the root cause of a person’s anxiety, destructive thoughts, and even physical symptoms.
